A-Z: The Lace & Tassels Glossary and Erotic Index

A-Z: The Lace & Tassels Glossary and Erotic Index

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Anus/Anal: Refers to the opening and passage of the rectum. Anal play can be a pleasurable experience for some individuals.

AFAB/AMAB: Acronyms for "assigned female/male at birth", which refers to the sex assigned to a person based on their physical anatomy at birth.

Booty: Slang term for buttocks, a body part that can be sexually stimulating. Some individuals may also enjoy spanking or other forms of impact play on the buttocks as a source of sexual pleasure.

Bodily/Body Autonomy: The right to make decisions about one's own body and physical well-being, including choices related to sex and sexuality.

Bondage rope: Specialized rope used to restrain or tie up a person during BDSM play. Often made of natural fibers like hemp or cotton, they are tied in specific patterns to create visual appeal or functional restraint.

Breasts: The mammary glands on the chest of a person's body, which can be sensitive and erogenous during sexual activity.

Bullet: A small, discreet vibrator used for erogenous zone stimulation. Some can even be inserted into hollow toys to make them vibrate.

C-Ring/Cock Ring: A sex toy that can be worn around the base of the penis or around the penis and testicles to enhance sexual pleasure and performance by restricting blood flow to the penis, creating a harder and longer-lasting erection.

Chastity Cage: A chastity cage, also known as a cock cage, is a toy worn over the penis to prevent the wearer from achieving an erection or engaging in sexual activity. They are often used in BDSM play or as part of a power exchange dynamic between partners.

Clamps: Clamps are a type of BDSM sex toy that can be applied to the nipples, clitoris, or other erogenous zones. They provide a pinching or squeezing sensation, which can increase sensitivity and sexual pleasure. Some clamps may also have additional features, such as adjustable pressure or vibration.

Clitoris/C Spot: A highly sensitive area located at the front of the vulva. Stimulating the clitoris can lead to intense sexual pleasure for vulva owners.

Desensitizing/Desensitizer: A substance or product used to temporarily reduce sensitivity in a specific area, often used during sexual activity to prolong arousal or delay ejaculation.

Dilator: A medical device used to gradually stretch and expand the vagina, often used for medical purposes or to enhance sexual pleasure.

Dildo: A sex toy that is designed to be inserted into the vagina or anus for sexual stimulation.

Douche: A device used to rinse the rectum with water or other fluids, often used before anal sex.

Erogenous Zones/Pleasure Zones: Areas of the body that are particularly sensitive to sexual stimulation and can lead to sexual pleasure.

Foreskin: The foreskin is the retractable skin that covers the head of the penis.

Frenulum: The frenulum is the thin band of tissue on the underside of the penis. Both can be sensitive and sexually stimulating.

G Spot: A highly sensitive area located inside the vagina. Stimulating the G Spot can lead to an intense orgasmic release and sometimes even squirting!

Glans: The rounded tip of the penis, which can be highly sensitive to touch and sexual stimulation.

Grinder: A sex toy designed for external stimulation by grinding and vibrating against the genital area, typically used by people with vulvas.

Harness (BDSM): A piece of equipment used in BDSM play to restrain or control a person's movement.

Harness (Strap On): Equipment worn around the waist or hips that allows a person to penetrate their partner with a dildo or other insertable toy.

Hood (Bondage Deprivation Hood): A type of BDSM hood or mask that can be used to restrict sensory input or to create a sense of anonymity or power exchange.

Impact play: A type of BDSM play that involves striking the body with various tools such as whips, paddles, or floggers.


Kegels/Pelvic Floor/PC Muscles: The group of muscles located at the base of the pelvis. Strengthening these muscles can lead to improved sexual function and pleasure.

Lubricant: A substance used to reduce friction during sexual activity. Water-based, silicone-based, and hybrid lubricants are most commonly used but oil based lubricants also exist. Water-based lubricants are versatile, toy safe and easy to clean, while silicone-based lubricants are longer-lasting and work well for water-based activities but they may not be toy safe. Hybrid lubricants combine the benefits of both water and silicone-based lubricants. Oil-based lubricants are thicker and longer-lasting than water or silicone-based lubricants, but they can degrade latex condoms and some sex toys.

Masturbation sleeve/stroker: A sex toy designed to simulate the sensation of masturbation, intercourse or oral.

Nipple: The raised area of skin on the chest that surrounds the lactiferous ducts. Nipples can be a sensitive erogenous zone for some!

Orgasm: The climax/peak of sexual pleasure experienced during sexual activity.

Panty Vibe: A panty vibrator is a wearable sex toy that is designed to be discreet and easily worn inside a person's underwear. They can be controlled remotely or through a smartphone app

Pasties (Nipples): A type of adhesive nipple cover or decoration, often used in burlesque or exotic dance performances.

Pegging: A sexual practice in which a person wearing a strap-on dildo penetrates their partner anally, often practiced in BDSM or queer communities.

Penis: The penis is the male sexual organ that is used for both urination and sexual activity. It consists of the shaft, glans, and foreskin (if present), and can become erect when stimulated.

Perineum: The area between the anus and the genitals, which can be a sensitive erogenous zone during sexual activity.

Prostate/P Spot: The prostate or P Spot is a gland located inside the AMAB body that can be stimulated to produce sexual pleasure.

Pulsator: A type of sex toy that uses air pressure or other technology to create a pulsing or tapping sensation on the clitoris.

Queer: An umbrella term used to describe individuals who do not identify as heterosexual or cisgender.

Rabbit: A type of vibrator that includes both a clitoral stimulator and a shaft for vaginal insertion, often said to be shaped like a rabbit.

Restraints: Equipment used in BDSM play to restrain or control a person's movement.

Safety Scissors: Specialized scissors used to quickly and safely cut through ropes or other restraints in case of emergency. Designed with a blunt tip and curved blade to minimize the risk of injury to the restrained person.

Sensation play: A type of BDSM play that involves using various tools to stimulate the body and create different sensations.

Sensitizing/Sensitizer: A substance or product used to temporarily increase sensitivity in a specific area, often used during sexual activity to enhance pleasure and arousal.

Sounding: Sounding is the sexual practice of inserting objects into the urethra for stimulation. This activity can be high-risk and should only be performed with caution and appropriate tools.

Squirting: The release of a fluid through the urethra during sexual activity, often associated with intense stimulation of the G Spot in some individuals.

Tassels (Nipples): A type of nipple decoration or accessory that consists of small, dangling tassels or fringes.

Testicles/Scrotum: The two male reproductive glands located inside the scrotum. The scrotum is the sac of skin that holds the testicles.

Transitioning (Gender): The process of changing one's gender identity and/or expression to better align with one's true gender identity, often involving social, medical, and/or legal changes.

Urethra: The tube that carries urine out of the body. Some individuals enjoy stimulation of this area also through a practice known as sounding.

Vagina/Vulva: The female sex organs. The vagina is a muscular canal that leads from the cervix to the outside of the body, while the vulva includes the external female genitalia.

Wand vibrator: A large, powerful vibrator that is often used for external stimulation.

Wartenberg Wheel/Sensation Pinwheel: A type of BDSM toy that consists of a small, spiky wheel that can be rolled over the skin to produce a prickling or tickling sensation.

Wedge/Positioner: A type of sex cushion or pillow that can be used to support and enhance various sexual positions, often made of foam or inflatable materials.


Yoni: A Sanskrit term used to refer to the vulva or the entire female genitalia. It is often used in spiritual and tantric practices